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My Spot


I you ever watched The Big Bang Theory you will know what I mean when I say that Sheldon won't let anyone else sit in his spot.   It is funny because it is an extreme example of a universal truth.  We all have a spot or spots where we feel comfortable. 

There is a certain place in my house where I like to sit to watch TV and a certain chair I sit in at the dining room table.  I have a side of the bed.  I attend a weekly meeting with a group and I tend to pick the same side of the table and the same end of the table to sit.   These are my spots.  Even outside I have a spot.  In springtime when the trees are in bloom it is beautiful on my patio.  I have a melodious wind chime and I can watch the birds and meditate. 

When I go to a restaurant, I usually like to sit on the edges of the room and I like to be able to see the door.  When I enter a lecture hall or church, I sit on the left toward the front.  In a theater I want to be on the aisle about halfway back.  This is where I feel comfortable.

Some people have to be looking out a window or have their back to the wall.  Some people like to be seated in the center of the room and some along the edges.  Whether you have ever thought about it or not, you probably have some ingrained habits about where you sit in every place you go. 

I believe some of our preferences have to do with our personalities.  It seems to me that extroverts are more comfortable in the center of things and introverts drift to the sidelines.  Of course, there are other factors such as the comfort of the seat, the view, and your purpose.  It is interesting to wonder why those spots have gained appeal for me.  What are some of your favorite spots?  Do you always sit on the left or the right, back or front? 

It is important for me to know my spot in life, to know when I am comfortable.  That is how this whole exercise helps me.  When I am not at ease with where I am sitting or standing, part of my attention is taken up with thinking about how much I would like to move.  If I make certain I am comfortable in any situation first, then I can be more present, authentic and helpful.  
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