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What's A Vacation For?

For the first time in over 3 years, Dennis and I are talking about taking a vacation.  
We want to take a trip somewhere that we would find fun and relaxing.  We picked some dates and made the commitment.  We came up with a budget that we felt we could spend.  Then I started researching for a place to go. 

I know the kind of things we enjoy doing.  I know how we have managed our energy and interests on outings before and I thought I had a good plan.  We loved our last vacation when we went to Boston for 5 days in 2011.  We saw the Alcott house, the Mary Baker Eddy library, toured Concord (bookstore, UU church where Revolution planned) and the Gropius House.   It was eclectic, quirky, some planned and some not and we had a great time.

Other things we have enjoyed doing together have been things we stumbled across like touring Old Town, and the Sheriff’s museum in San Diego (and staying in a charming place called the Padre Inn), the Railroad museum in Temple, the airplane museum in Galveston, the Mayo Clinic museum in Rochester, sites where “Homicide Life on the Streets” was filmed in Baltimore, and the Cryptology museum in DC. 

We like interesting stories and places that we can learn things – historical and personal.   Our favorite kind of trip is we find a place that we can park for 5 days or so as a home base – comfortable so we can hang and rest between outings.  Then we go see some of these interesting sites and eat out and just do touristy things. 

With all that in mind, I found three perfectly lovely places to visit.  Places that appealed to our interests and had all the elements of visits we have enjoyed in the past.  Still, something was holding me back.   

I sought advice from friends about where they thought would be fun.  And all the suggestions sounded like fun.  We kept discussing the places I found and I researched more places.  Anything that came into my head that sounded interesting, I checked into it.   

I just couldn't bring myself to finalize any plans or settle on a particular place or agenda.  The worst part of it is that I couldn't put my finger on why.  What was holding me back.  I now have 5 places and lists of things to see and do that would make a splendid trip.  And, here I sit.

Today, I realized that I had based all my assumptions about what we enjoyed on experiences in the past.  When we did those things, our day-to-day life was very different than it is now.  And that matters.  Vacations are, at least for me, about getting away from your daily existence.   We live in a city now and have constant noise and smog and traffic.  Having registered that today, I realized I don't really want to go be in the center of a city with constant noise, smog, and traffic.  I want something more beautiful and quiet. 

This awareness has opened up a whole new avenue to explore.  I don't know where it will lead, but I do know that it is something to consider.  What do I want out of this break in routine?  What will most nurture my soul and my psyche?  And while I am clear that no place can give me that, I do know that environment can encourage inner peace and joy.  So, back to the drawing board for me.   I can't wait to see what plans unfold.

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  1. It's from that place of "not knowing" and being comfortable there, that we see the answers emerging, personally and professionally. Beautifully written.

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