Have you ever heard someone described as having a chip on
their shoulder? Perhaps it was even
you. I’ve been thinking about that and
what we consider a chip. It’s an
attitude—aggrieved, entitled, disgruntled or angry.
I think that the chip was created out of repressed or
squelched expression. When you wanted to pursue a particular dream or career
and were told that wasn’t doable, that you couldn’t make a living at that, or
you wouldn’t succeed. Or your very
personality, sexuality, or life choices were rejected, not good enough, or the
person you are won’t fit in. When you
are told to hide who you are and to be less than authentic it creates
resentment.
Try to see whatever chip you are carrying on your shoulder
as the passion or authentic self that has been repressed and held down. There are always forces coming from outside and
inside of you with these messages, attempting to make you follow a well-traveled
path or hold in your natural spirit.
A chip is feeling unheard, misunderstood, squelched,
discouraged, and saved from disappointment.
All result in the purpose, the meaning, the gift of you being pushed
deep down inside, so deep it is lost.
And all you are left with is the grudge, the chip, the baggage you carry
around as a truth.
Whoever is squelching you may have good reasons for what
they say. They usually think they
do. And, perhaps if we weren’t each
glorious godlings with individual passions, gifts, talents, and purpose we
could apply universal principles to career choices or personal expression of
self. Yet, we are each perfectly
unique.
There are universal truths about the power of love, the
freedom of honesty and the satisfaction of meaning. There are none guiding your authentic
self. Certainly, we have rules written
and not about how we “should” show up in the world. And most of us follow those. None of them constrict your self expression,
how to use your talents, your lifestyle or personality.
Free yourself from the chip and be the amazing person that
longs for expression.
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