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Comfort - never underestimate how important it is to feel comfortable. Comfortable in your own skin, comfortable in your physical environment, comfortable with what you are doing, and what you are wearing.   And most of all comfortable with who you are. 

When we are uncomfortable we cannot be fully engaged and present in life.  There is always some part of the brain that is occupied with thinking how to change the situation, physical layout, temperature, looks, tasks, people, anything that will make us more comfortable. 

And I cannot stress enough how important it is to own whatever makes you uncomfortable.  For instance, I have to be able to see the exit in a room.  A door, a window, something.  If I am in a room that has no egress or only one and I have my back to it, I am uncomfortable.  I could give you a list of reasons why I have this phobia, but the truth is that doesn't matter.  What matters is that I honor it and make myself comfortable.  Otherwise, there is a part of me that is so busy dealing with my discomfort and trying to look like I am okay, that I am not able to pay attention as I would like and I find it difficult to be open and creative. 

If I have to concentrate to accomplish a task or project and a part of my mental strength is being used to quiet my discomfort, it will take me much longer to complete the task.   If I am performing a task that takes all of my emotional energy because I am not comfortable with it for whatever reason, I cannot do my best.

Certainly, there are times when we have to do things that are uncomfortable.  And the line between what dreadful thing has to be done by me and how can I make myself as comfortable as possible while doing it is usually pretty clear. 

What I am saying here is to allow yourself a measure of comfort whenever possible in order to focus on doing the tasks that have to be done.  So wear clothing that you like and feel expresses your personality, sit in the seat you like, wear your hair for you, put your back to the wall, close the door to your office, sit on the floor, take off your shoes, get to work 10 minutes early and meditate before starting, get comfortable.

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