Morning Compromise

I self-describe as "not a morning person” and those around me in the morning will confirm.  I accept my levels of energy are usually not in keeping with the norm.  It's part of my charm.  But to those who have to deal with me first thing in the morning, charm doesn't enter the picture.

To them, it might seem as though I have one mode in the morning.  Really, I have an entire range of morning emotions – crabby, tense, grouchy, groggy, overtired, sleepy, sluggish, hurting, resentful, fearful, happy, excited, irritated, --and that’s just off the top of my head.  

Crabby gets top billing because it is the most vocal mode.   I like to vent about things and when I wake up feeling out of sorts and tired, I complain, loudly.  I feel better when I express how I feel and especially if I get validation for it.  The validation can be the equivalent of a condescending 'yes dear', and that's fine.  I was heard.  A little patience and compromise can go a long way toward easing a night owl into the day. 

Just like I use patience and compromise to get on with the cheerful morning folks in my life.  It sets my teeth on edge to have someone be super chipper before coffee, but I forebear.  I do my version of 'yes dear' and just allow the good feelings to flow.  I don't need to ruin someone else's upbeat attitude because I am not there yet.  It is, after all, merely a matter of being on different circadian clocks.  It's timing, not a drastic difference in personalities or values.

Let's all let each other express in whatever way we need to as long as we aren't hurting others or ourselves.  I get through my less pleasant moods in time and then I can return the favor of acceptance late in the day when the morning people are not at their top form.