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Just Relax


What I need is to relax.  To know that it is okay to stop and take it easy to get into a flow.  I want some calm and relaxation.  Just saying that makes me feel like crying.  It is like admitting that I am that tense and that I just want to relax makes me feel the tiniest bit of relaxation enter my muscles and then I feel the tears gather. 

There are so many different feelings and it is rare for human beings to feel just one at a time.  They are usually all mixed up and combined.  So I want to relax and I want to feel relief or sadness too.  I want to feel free of responsibility.  I want to feel at ease.   Seems to be about trust.  Trust takes care of all those feelings.  When I really trust that everything is in good hands, and I don't mean mine, there is no tension buildup.  

"Just relax" is a statement that ranks right up there with "be yourself".  Neither one addresses the underlying cause.  If I don't know how to be myself it is because I feel out of connection with who I am.   If I am not relaxed, there is a reason, even if I am not aware of the reason.  I am anxious about something, fearful of something, poised for something.  A much more helpful statement would address the cause. 

When I feel tense, I try to ask myself what I am afraid of, what is the worst that can happen – the answers give me clear keys as to what would best address my anxiety.  Let's say I am nervous or overwrought because I have a very very long to do list and I am panicked at getting it all done.  Saying, "there's plenty of time" is much more to the point.  

There is plenty of time and what needs to get done, will.  And probably most important to remember is that it is not all up to me.  I am not in this alone.  I do trust that it is all okay and I am on exactly the path I need to be today.   


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